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2 07, 2014

Approaching Independence Day a lot of th

Approaching Independence Day a lot of things are going through my mind. I’m thinking about two similar, yet very different words….INDEPENDENCE and INTERDEPENDENCE.

Just so happens, LifeVictory Coaching’s July theme is INTERDEPENDENCE. Inter = a Latin preposition (Latin’s cool!) signifying among or between. Add Dependence = Reliance; confidence; trust; a resting on. A state of being subject to the will or power of another or cause…So, INTERDEPENDENCE = Reliance, confidence or trust among or between another. Sounds like relationship to me.

We have an innate interdependence upon each other. None of us would be where we are today, good, bad or indifferent if it wasn’t for, or in spite of intertwined and interdependent relationship we have with each other.

Now, to specifically bring into the discussion the reason we celebrate INDEPENDENCE DAY. The significance of it rests on The Declaration of Independence and everything that went on before, and now after it’s historic signing. The solemn declaration of the Congress of the United States of America, on the 4th of July 1776, by which they formally renounced their subjection (forced dependence) to the government of Great Britain. Independence is the state of being not dependent. Complete exemption to control. A state of which a person does not rely on others for subsistence; ability to support one’s self.

As we approach Independence Day this Friday I hope and pray that it’s not just another holiday/day off work/long party weekend…. or whatever….but that you will pause and reflect on the dedication, resilience, sacrifice of not only our Founding Fathers and the Framers of the Constitution, but each [...]

21 07, 2013

3 words are rattling around (well actual

3 words are rattling around (well actually more!) but 3 that are intertwined and relevant in a number of conversations I have had with various people the last couple of weeks…actually ever since Independence Day. Independence…Interdependence…Codependence.
Let’s start with defining the core word in each…DEPENDENCE. Just fyi, I will be using the American Dictionary of the English Language – Noah Webster 1828. “Reliance; confidence; trust; a resting on. A state of being subject to the will of an intelligent cause, power or operation. Connection by which one thing is sustained by another, in its place, operations, or is affected by it. Inability to sustain itself without the aid of.”
Okay….so foundationally there we are. Now, INDEPENDENCE…
“A state in which a person does not rely on others for subsistence; ability to support one’s self. A state of being not dependent; complete exemption from control, or the power of others. A state of mind in which a person acts without bias or influence from others.”
Interestingly enough, the words INTERDEPENDENCE and CODEPENDENCE were not in the 1828 Noah Webster’s Dictionary.
So, I went to my iPhone app dictionary.
Interdependence…”of two or more people or things dependent on each other.”
Codependence…”excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically a partner who requires support due to an illness or addiction.”
It has been interesting how many times these words have come up in random conversations this month. I think partially because we just celebrated America’s Independence Day on July 4th.
But, in the greater scope of things that fact that we are created for relationship. We may have temperaments that are more [...]

5 07, 2013

Independence Day vs. Interdependence Day

Independence Day vs. Interdependence Day – The difference may seem obvious but I would ask in the bigger picture of life is the all out drive for independence a good thing?

One of the L.I.F.E.V.I.C.T.O.R.Y. Life Principles being INTERDEPENDENCE is a reminder of how intertwined we human beings are. I recently read an article stating that the number one human condition is a deep sense of loneliness. We really were created for social connection – we need each other.

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25 06, 2013

My response to a recent facebook post –

My response to a recent facebook post – just thought I’d share here.

I completely agree that awareness is essential in relationships and to not throw our hearts “into the ring” prematurely.

Proverbs 4:23 – Above all else, guard your heart for it will affect everything else in your life (It is the wellspring of life)

I do not for a second discount the hurt and trauma anyone has experienced from bad relationships.

However, we as women, me included (I’m 51) married for 32+ years, post-abortive with my husband (had an abortion while planning our wedding) – that choice created MASSIVE relationship dynamics for us both. It’s truly only by the grace of God we have survived together and now are finally beginning to thrive as a couple. But it has been hard work at times, HARD work on both of our parts. But worth the effort.

Our culture has created a mess. The lies we buy into as truth can impact us individually and our relationships with the opposite sex. I personally cried out to God years ago saying “I couldn’t live like this anymore” with regards to my marriage. I sensed so strongly that I had been hyper-focusing my finger pointing on my husband and I had three pointing back at me. OUCH!

I also had to look at and get rid of the log in my own eye, so that I could have a better view of anything I was doing to provoke my husbands behavior – he’s only human too!

Again, I must add here – I do not discount any pain, suffering or trauma you may have experienced in relationships from truly bad character.

But, we as [...]

19 01, 2012

My first day as a Marine recruit mom….learning to let go!

Wow, I have been so busy getting my son ready to leave for bootcamp and having only snail mail contact for 12 weeks.  Wow! 

The reality really hit me today.   I woke up at 2 a.m. and began writing in my journal for about two hours.  

I was not expecting my flood of emotions, I thought those had all come and gone prior to his shipping out.   Oh no, there was so much more to come.  

Made my morning when I got the “official” phone call that he had safely arrived at Camp Pendleton even if it was two sentences and very monotone, certainly not a two way conversation.  I at least got to say I love you Ethan before he hung up!

The journey begins…

20 11, 2011

Restoring Order

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15 08, 2011

Butterfly Effect

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