Interdependence

9 07, 2017

Our Interdependence on Independence Day & Everyday

In Celebration of the signing of the Declaration of Independence lets also remember how interdependent we are upon each other.   Our country’s independence from a foreign dictator could have never been accomplished without the unity of those fighting for that independence.    They were interdependent upon each other.

Thomas Paine famously wrote in “The American Crisis” pamphlet during the American Revolutionary War, “These are times that try men’s (and women’s) souls.”

Some say we are in a crucible in our nation.   If so, how will we as individuals, and how as a nation will we respond.

First, what is a crucible?  It’s a container where metals are melted, or subjected to very high temperatures.  In a human sense, some would call it a fiery trial, or the refiner’s fire where metal is tested.  A crucible, or fiery trial can be brief or prolonged.   It can produce something better, or something worse.  The result of the refiner’s fire, often depends on the metal being tested.

Simply put, a crucible is a place or situation that forces people to change or make difficult decisions; a place or situation where different elements interact to produce something new.

Scottish historian and award-winning author makes a very good point to consider, “The point needs to be made that all individuals ground their view of the world within some conception of moral authority.  Not only those who are (religious) in a traditional sense, but also those who claim to have no (religious) faith at all, base their views of the world in unprovable assumptions and ‘being’ and ‘knowledge’.”

Hunter goes on to say, “Within communities that hold orthodox views, moral authority arises from a common commitment to transcendence, by which I mean a dynamic reality that is independent of, prior to, and more powerful than [...]

19 11, 2016

Reset Button – Words Lift Up & Words Tear Down – Lead in LOVE

Come together, right now….we need to agree to disagree in some cases.  At the end of the day, we need to consider the children of the future.   Protecting them and their innocence.

We must lead in LOVE. 

LifeVictory is thematic – The theme LEADS in LOVE, everything else is elementary and follows.

WORDS fitly spoken can heal…it is time to heal.

Join me in sharing words that heal.  

Peace,

Deborah

 

3 07, 2016

Independence Day approaches…..

….as Independence Day approaches I want to encourage you to consider how interdependent you are to the people around you.  Even though we live in a world that prizes and exalts independence, we are so very intertwined and interdependent upon each other!   Even high performance CEOs, professionals or Olympic athletes have coaches and a team around them to journey along with them towards their journey to accomplish their goals.  Their is an innate need for interdependence and community.  

Independence Day in the United States of America is significant in gaining independence from Great Britian, just think if our ancestors, who weren’t perfect and made mistakes along the way, had not fought and joined together interdependently it’s truly a wonder where we would all be today?  On Independence Day we think of our history, we sing the national anthem or hear someone else with goosebumps running down our spine with pride.

With a son currently serving as a Sergeant in the United States Marine Corp I think about how truly interdependent he is with he unit – all for one and one for all.  No man left behind.  They would not be able to protect and rescue the weak if  they were not a strongly intertwined unit looking out for each other and their mission together.

I encourage you to surround yourself with people who encourage your individuality but don’t mistake that with independence.  You are a unique individual but you become even greater based on the people you surround yourself with and are interdependent and intertwined with.  Are they helping you reach your highest and best potential?

The most important intertwined and interdependent relationship you can have in this life is with Papa God, He loves you so much and knows you so well and wants only the [...]

7 05, 2016

A Mother Ponders Mother’s Day…………..

Solemn Birthday my Sweet Guinevere Rose!

You would have been 35 years old this Mother’s Day had we said YES to the LIFE you were meant to LIVE.

Had we said YES to you and run fully into the arms of Papa God for forgiveness, instead we chose to continue along the path of lies and deception, deceiving ourselves and all around us, who could have helped us choose LIFE for you. The path into darkness grew for more than 2 decades….impacting every aspect of our marriage, parenting and our lives. We ignored the LIFE, and her impact, of our first child we chose to snuff out.
By the grace of God our marriage survived, hanging on by a thread….that thread was Jesus! Even though the church, the body of Christ, was all around us no one ever talked about the need to heal from abortion. Oh, maybe a short conversion, placing a little bandaid over the wound. In fact, abortion was rarely talked about….it was one of those taboo subjects….”too political” and “too divisive”! Such little understanding of how GOD WEPT over the brokenness He saw in His own children who were too busy “playing church” rather than BEING His church….
Yet, in our silence so many wounded and broken souls walked in and out of the doors of the church without a word to open the door, even a crack, to God’s healing grace from the deep soul wound of abortion trauma. Yes, the wound is deep, permeating every nook and cranny of one’s life. The open festering wound oozing, with it’s infectious poison, into every aspect of a woman’s life *spirit-soul-body* UNTIL one day, Oh bright and glorious day, the light of Jesus [...]

23 03, 2016

4 Steps to Peace

Seems like a pretty tall order….Just 4 Steps to Peace….really?   Yes, really!

Peace in the true sense of the word does not come from the world, it comes from within.  Through a deep, abiding sense of well-being that comes from your divine and loving Creator God.   I like to call Him, Papa God.  

Now, with that said, you may be wanting to run for the hills, or at least go run and hide.   But I ask you to pause, take a deep cleansing breath, and as you are inhaling and exhaling I want you to think of one thing you are thankful for.   You see, inner peace starts with our thinking, our mind, our heart, our thoughts, when our thoughts are focused on worry, can create feelings which can send us on a wild ride of anxiety.

However, their is a better way!  

Let me unpack the 4 Steps….

Don’t worry about anything
Pray about everything
Tell God what you need
Thank God for all He has done

Here’s the deal, If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand.  His Peace will guard your heart and mind as you live in Christ Jesus.  Really and truly!

Are you always scurrying about, keeping busy?  Trying to fix everything on your own?  Left with little or no time to just pause and get quiet.   Reflect on even one thing you are thankful for.   If you can’t think of one thing, here’s one.  So start with God’s really truly LOVES YOU just the way you are. Did you know you are created in the image of God for love and good works?  Has anyone ever told you that before?  Let that settle deeply inside of you.  Repeat it to yourself. [...]

2 02, 2016

February First….

Not only is today the First of February, it’s the First day of the 2nd month of the year 2016….so why does that matter anyway?  Not much really in the big scope of things….I just think that way sometimes 🙂

February is the month for romance – Valentine’s Day – Hearts – Flowers – Chocolate!   For some it can be a very difficult time if you’ve had, or are in the midst of relationship struggles.

At LifeVictory Coaching February’s about LOVE ~ LAUGHTER ~ LIBERTY!  

 

My favorite definition of what LOVE is comes from the greatest book on the planet.   LOVE is patient and kind.  LOVE is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude.  LOVE does not demand its own way.  LOVE is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.  LOVE is never glad about injustice but REJOICES when the TRUTH wins out.  LOVE never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.  LOVE will last forever.

I LOVE THAT!!!   I hope you will take that with you and refer back to it often – you get more of what you give.   GIVE LOVE, LIVE LOVE, BE LOVE!

 

 

 

 

OH!  And by the way, here’s some of the best and healthiest CHOCOLATE you’ll find!

 

 

Let’s just think…..

 

 

Setting aside any and all ideology, long held beliefs, preconceived notions.  Please, just think for a moment and ponder this week the possibilities of this picture.

What is going on in this little girl’s mind?   What is she thinking about as she presses her ear to her mommy’s growing belly?  It’s like she is giving a gentle hug to her sibling so safely protected in their mommy’s womb only millimeters of skin, flesh and tissue separate them from being able to touch skin-to-skin.  Such joy and anticipation!

The unknown world ahead.  The hopes and dreams for a future of possibilities, fear, apprehension can also be a part of this scene.  In God, we have a future and a hope!  We have a future and a hope!  With God, all things are POSSIBLE!  

Every human life starts with the framework of being designed, created and born in the image of God (Genesis 1:26-27).  When we continue on the path of possibilities with God we abide and remain in his presence, uncorrupted by the world, like the innocence of a child in the womb.  Created for love and good works.  

How can the world say that precious life has no value to be protected, loved and nurtured.  Why are we not teaching our young women and men to love and believe the best?  We can create with God what we want to see in the earth, for love and good works.   Every human being is created to BE a POSSIBILITARIAN!  It’s in our true nature, it really is!

As we approach this coming week and reflect on where our world and it’s ideas, let’s think on, promote and do all we can to BE the Change God Wants To See in the World and Become that [...]

13 11, 2014

Mommy Baby Rescue

Getting the text at 8:15 a.m. “I am at the clinic right now” dropped a lead weight in my gut. Everything in me screamed, “No! Ending the life of your 5 1/2 month old baby in your womb will not solve your problems, it creates new ones!”

We had talked the night before and I shared my story of my abortion trauma experience and the things I so wished I had been told by the abortion clinic – the same one she was sitting in, but 34 years prior.

She didn’t want to go through with the abortion but she hadn’t been given other options either. This appointment was her 5th visit – every time she would walk out of the clinic because in her words, “Why should my baby be punished with a death sentence, he’s done nothing wrong. How could I hurt him like that? I just don’t know what else to do!”

I texted her back to see if we could meet, I will come to you. And would it be ok to bring a friend who is a specialist in open adoptions to at least give her more information about her options. All of them. And also, the known risk factors and aftermath of abortion trauma, especially at 5 1/2 months pregnant. Women Deserve Full Disclosure

I could feel the adrenal rushing through my body as the thought came to my mind, “MommyBabyRescue!” In my mind’s eye I saw an enormous guardian angel standing behind and protecting a pregnant mommy with her hands gently and protectively placed over her burgeoning belly. It was a beautiful picture [...]

25 07, 2014

Interdependent ~ Interpersonal Intelligence

Interdependent relationships – We are triune beings
We are spirit-soul-body and live fully in interdependent relationships

Reflecting on a recent seminar I attended in San Diego … ERQ: strategies for promoting emotional & relational intelligence – relational & personal competence it has given me a lot of food for thought. The field of interpersonal neurobiology is an emerging field of expertise that intrigues me immensely!  The class focus overall was about interpersonal neurobiology.

My thoughts here are not necessarily a summary of my notes or the course notes – but more an overall contemplative processing.

Intertwining – imago inter-relationship with God, The Divine.

To separate ourselves from The Divine, Our Divine Creator, is separating ourselves from ourself. To divide ourself from the divine is living a divided life, out of sorts, out of balance and harmony. 

The Divine came into the world to bring abundant life for humanity by being reunited, renewed, redeemed and transformed into our original imago Divine nature. (John 10:10b)

“If the Holy Spirit controls your mind, there is life and peace.” Romans 8:6b
“Through the power of the Holy Spirit (of the Divine) – you live. For all who are led by the Holy Spirit (of the Divine) Spirit of God are children of God. ” Romans 8:13b

“For His Divine Holy Spirit speaks to us deep in our hearts and tells us that we are God’s children.” Romans 8:16

As intertwined-interdependent beings our hearts become more whole as we draw nearer to, not away from, our Divine Creator in pursuit of oneness and wholeness within abiding in Him.

Peace Be With You!

No No Status Quo!!

Let me start with a disclaimer…Don’t shoot the messenger please!

Sitting at the age and stage of my life, married 30+ years to my high school sweetheart, and being the parent of a thirty-something and 3 twenty-somethings, I view life very reflectively. You know, I wish I had known then what I know now!

I have lived through seasons of grief and regret that seemed like they would never end! What I discovered in those seasons was instead of waiting for my circumstances to change and the people around me to change…it was I that was in need of change. I needed to change my attitude, my perspective, who I looked to for advise.

I, too needed to allow a healing to occur in my soul…my heart – my mind-will-emotions!

I hadn’t consciously realized but I had bought into the status quo flow of churchianity – a variation of Christianity that left out the deeper kingdom messages of Christ. Void of really seeking the Kingdom of God, but instead had adopted the world’s best “business practices” and sprinkled or submerged the church teachings in it – becoming part of the status quo. Instead of taking FIRST the Kingdom of God and His Righteousness as Jesus taught, not becoming conformed to the world, but being renewed in our minds in Christ Jesus through the power of the Holy Spirit and the true and holy Word of God. That, dear ones, is transformational, out-of-the-box thinking!

God REALLY DOES have all the answers to the world’s problems, struggles, frustrations, hurts and heartaches. If we actively pursue and seek out and understand, through faith, God will reveal truth through His Holy Spirit. God is the fullness of truth.
If we seek to delight [...]