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1 02, 2017

February 1st, 2017…new month, new day in a new year :)

Where did January go?!

February 1st, 2017…new month, new day in a new year.

How did January go for you? Was it everything you hoped it would be? Or did it knock you up side the head or pull the rug out from underneath you? Or somewhere in between? Mine completely knocked me for a loop.  Life can do that!

The morning of January 1st my father and I, and my family, sadly greeted the year with the passing of my dear mother. It’s been a whirlwind of a month, being the oldest daughter in the family and giving caregiving assistance to my father in the care of my mother – everything is different, except for the love and care in our family, it has grown deeper and stronger. Mom would have wanted it that way.

So, we pick up the broken pieces of our hearts – we remember the good times and memories with mom. We keep her love in our hearts. We come alongside my dad as he moves through life without his lifelong partner of 60 years, wow! That’s a long time <3 They stuck together through the good, the bad and the ugly, and believe me their was plenty of ugly.  They persevered, not always sure how they were going to make it through the winters of their relationship, but always remembering that spring and summer were just around the corner.  No matter how dark and bleak it seemed at the time – they hung on. For that I am so grateful!
As their teenage daughter, I was part of creating some of the UGLY they had to deal with in our lives and their marriage. Sorting it all out isn’t easy and [...]

20 01, 2017

L.I.F.E.V.I.C.T.O.R.Y.

I don’t know about you but I love word plays – words matter.

A couple of years ago I created a word finder game to help people have a greater understanding of what LifeVictory Coaching is about.   I’ve attached it here.   Have fun!  Click the link, download and print and play.   LIFEVICTORY WORD POWER SEARCH

I hope and pray that your upcoming 2025 is blessed.   If you feel stuck or without direction or focus, I’d love to help you get unstuck and help you find a sense of purpose in your life.   No matter what your past or current circumstances, you have a bright future.  It’s not a journey you are expected to walk alone.

Blessings,

Deborah

LifeVictory Coaching and Consulting

deborah@lifevictory.com

775-224-0717

Resilience Can Be Learned – Emotional Intelligence (EQ) Matters

Resilience – Are we ever in need of a HUGE dose of it about now.   The culture chaos all around us has so much to do with emotional intelligence (EQ), also known as Resilience.   

Researcher Daniel Goleman, in his groundbreaking brain and behavioral research shows a shift in how we see IQ and life success.

What is EQ, Resilience anyway?   Up until 2012, in my studies to become a Certified Life Coach, I had never heard the term before.   Was it ever eye opening and life changing to learn how much of a road block the lack of EQ (Emotional Intelligence), or Resilience can be in one’s life.

Emotional Intelligence includes self-awareness and impulse control, persistence, zeal or enthusiasm and self-motivation, empathy and social deftness or skillfulness, ability without difficulty.   The really good news is these all can be acquired.

In his book, Emotional Intelligence – Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, Dr. Goleman points out that the qualities I just listed above mark people who excel in real life: “whose intimate relationships flourish, who are stars in the workplace.  These are the hallmarks of character and self-displine, of altruism or selflessness and compassion – basic capacities needed if our society is to thrive.”

Why is emotional intelligence, resilience so important for right now as well as success moving forward?   Well, to put it right out there, the personal costs of deficits in emotional intelligence or resilience can range from problems in marriage and parenting to poor physical health.   “New research shows that chronic anger and anxiety create as great a health risk as chain smoking.”  Lack of emotional intelligence, or resilience can sabotage the intellect and ruin careers.  “Perhaps the greatest toll is on children, for whom risks include [...]

19 11, 2016

Reset Button – Words Lift Up & Words Tear Down – Lead in LOVE

Come together, right now….we need to agree to disagree in some cases.  At the end of the day, we need to consider the children of the future.   Protecting them and their innocence.

We must lead in LOVE. 

LifeVictory is thematic – The theme LEADS in LOVE, everything else is elementary and follows.

WORDS fitly spoken can heal…it is time to heal.

Join me in sharing words that heal.  

Peace,

Deborah

 

3 07, 2016

Independence Day approaches…..

….as Independence Day approaches I want to encourage you to consider how interdependent you are to the people around you.  Even though we live in a world that prizes and exalts independence, we are so very intertwined and interdependent upon each other!   Even high performance CEOs, professionals or Olympic athletes have coaches and a team around them to journey along with them towards their journey to accomplish their goals.  Their is an innate need for interdependence and community.  

Independence Day in the United States of America is significant in gaining independence from Great Britian, just think if our ancestors, who weren’t perfect and made mistakes along the way, had not fought and joined together interdependently it’s truly a wonder where we would all be today?  On Independence Day we think of our history, we sing the national anthem or hear someone else with goosebumps running down our spine with pride.

With a son currently serving as a Sergeant in the United States Marine Corp I think about how truly interdependent he is with he unit – all for one and one for all.  No man left behind.  They would not be able to protect and rescue the weak if  they were not a strongly intertwined unit looking out for each other and their mission together.

I encourage you to surround yourself with people who encourage your individuality but don’t mistake that with independence.  You are a unique individual but you become even greater based on the people you surround yourself with and are interdependent and intertwined with.  Are they helping you reach your highest and best potential?

The most important intertwined and interdependent relationship you can have in this life is with Papa God, He loves you so much and knows you so well and wants only the [...]

2 06, 2016

Value Virtuous Vision

It is said that without a vision people perish!   I think that requires looking outside of ourselves, to something, or Someone far greater than ourselves.   Vision comes from a greater purpose firmly grounded and rooted in who we are and what we were created to be in the Image of God.  A vision, mission and purpose of our greatest and highest contribution to the world around us.   A vision to be a world changer, not just to suit ourselves, but to Be a World Changer Created in the Image of God.   That’s a vision outside of ourselves.  Thinking outside the box.

A vision that builds on virtue, a pursuit of excellence.  A form of bravery, strength, moral excellence and valor out of a sincere love for God, distinguised from religion.

Because, we value and give importance to the things God Values.  

We live in a world of great contrasts, to put it mildly.

Vision has a lot to do with faith.  But faith in what, or shall I say who?  We put a lot of faith and hope in a lot of people and things.   People and things that don’t bring us to a better place.   Not that they are not valuable, but we need to ask ourselves is this person or thing in our life helping us build on and greater vision and purpose for our lives.

Vision without God is void of clear purpose and clarity.   It’s like seeing life with the glass half empty instead of half full.  A life full of abundance, love, possibilities, and hope for a brighter future despite what we see in front of us.  Without vision we lose hope, which leads me back full circle to my first statement….without a vision people perish.  

If you are looking for vision, hope, purpose, a sense of knowing your true God given value and purpose (not matter what the world is telling you – [...]

7 05, 2016

A Mother Ponders Mother’s Day…………..

Solemn Birthday my Sweet Guinevere Rose!

You would have been 35 years old this Mother’s Day had we said YES to the LIFE you were meant to LIVE.

Had we said YES to you and run fully into the arms of Papa God for forgiveness, instead we chose to continue along the path of lies and deception, deceiving ourselves and all around us, who could have helped us choose LIFE for you. The path into darkness grew for more than 2 decades….impacting every aspect of our marriage, parenting and our lives. We ignored the LIFE, and her impact, of our first child we chose to snuff out.
By the grace of God our marriage survived, hanging on by a thread….that thread was Jesus! Even though the church, the body of Christ, was all around us no one ever talked about the need to heal from abortion. Oh, maybe a short conversion, placing a little bandaid over the wound. In fact, abortion was rarely talked about….it was one of those taboo subjects….”too political” and “too divisive”! Such little understanding of how GOD WEPT over the brokenness He saw in His own children who were too busy “playing church” rather than BEING His church….
Yet, in our silence so many wounded and broken souls walked in and out of the doors of the church without a word to open the door, even a crack, to God’s healing grace from the deep soul wound of abortion trauma. Yes, the wound is deep, permeating every nook and cranny of one’s life. The open festering wound oozing, with it’s infectious poison, into every aspect of a woman’s life *spirit-soul-body* UNTIL one day, Oh bright and glorious day, the light of Jesus [...]

3 05, 2016

April Showers Bring May Flowers right? What else does May bring?

May does certainly bring glorious flowering beauty, there is no doubt about that!

But for some, the arrival of Mother’s Day brings with it a very mixed bag of emotions!  I know, I was one of those women.  On occasions it creeps up on me unexpectedly, like yesterday!  

I just felt “off” emotionally and physical the last couple of days.   It was a bit confusing, trying to figure out if I might have eaten something that just didn’t set in my stomach very well?   Maybe I hadn’t drank enough water that day?   Maybe I was catching a flu bug of some kind?  I began to pray and ask God (maybe that’s where I should have started in the first place 😉 ?

I asked God what was going on with me?   He knows me better than anyone else and He always tells me the truth and is straight up with me, no matter what.   He wants the best for me, He loves me and I can always count on Him to give me the straight scoop!   He leads me beside still waters.   He restores my soul.   He’s walked me through the valley of the shadow of death and I fear no one or no thing.   

So, as I quietly asked, pondered and waited for His reply, in His still small voice, He answered me…”remember when….Guinevere Rose would have been born?  I have healed your broken, shattered and wounded soul, yet you still carry the scar.   I have restored your confusion, I have renewed your mind, I have created a new thing….all sin is forgiven and you have been set free from your self-made prison.  Yet, the memories you do not forget my child, not completely. [...]

2 02, 2016

February First….

Not only is today the First of February, it’s the First day of the 2nd month of the year 2016….so why does that matter anyway?  Not much really in the big scope of things….I just think that way sometimes 🙂

February is the month for romance – Valentine’s Day – Hearts – Flowers – Chocolate!   For some it can be a very difficult time if you’ve had, or are in the midst of relationship struggles.

At LifeVictory Coaching February’s about LOVE ~ LAUGHTER ~ LIBERTY!  

 

My favorite definition of what LOVE is comes from the greatest book on the planet.   LOVE is patient and kind.  LOVE is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude.  LOVE does not demand its own way.  LOVE is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.  LOVE is never glad about injustice but REJOICES when the TRUTH wins out.  LOVE never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.  LOVE will last forever.

I LOVE THAT!!!   I hope you will take that with you and refer back to it often – you get more of what you give.   GIVE LOVE, LIVE LOVE, BE LOVE!

 

 

 

 

OH!  And by the way, here’s some of the best and healthiest CHOCOLATE you’ll find!

 

 

Let’s just think…..

 

 

Setting aside any and all ideology, long held beliefs, preconceived notions.  Please, just think for a moment and ponder this week the possibilities of this picture.

What is going on in this little girl’s mind?   What is she thinking about as she presses her ear to her mommy’s growing belly?  It’s like she is giving a gentle hug to her sibling so safely protected in their mommy’s womb only millimeters of skin, flesh and tissue separate them from being able to touch skin-to-skin.  Such joy and anticipation!

The unknown world ahead.  The hopes and dreams for a future of possibilities, fear, apprehension can also be a part of this scene.  In God, we have a future and a hope!  We have a future and a hope!  With God, all things are POSSIBLE!  

Every human life starts with the framework of being designed, created and born in the image of God (Genesis 1:26-27).  When we continue on the path of possibilities with God we abide and remain in his presence, uncorrupted by the world, like the innocence of a child in the womb.  Created for love and good works.  

How can the world say that precious life has no value to be protected, loved and nurtured.  Why are we not teaching our young women and men to love and believe the best?  We can create with God what we want to see in the earth, for love and good works.   Every human being is created to BE a POSSIBILITARIAN!  It’s in our true nature, it really is!

As we approach this coming week and reflect on where our world and it’s ideas, let’s think on, promote and do all we can to BE the Change God Wants To See in the World and Become that [...]