Wisdom

9 07, 2017

Our Interdependence on Independence Day & Everyday

In Celebration of the signing of the Declaration of Independence lets also remember how interdependent we are upon each other.   Our country’s independence from a foreign dictator could have never been accomplished without the unity of those fighting for that independence.    They were interdependent upon each other.

Thomas Paine famously wrote in “The American Crisis” pamphlet during the American Revolutionary War, “These are times that try men’s (and women’s) souls.”

Some say we are in a crucible in our nation.   If so, how will we as individuals, and how as a nation will we respond.

First, what is a crucible?  It’s a container where metals are melted, or subjected to very high temperatures.  In a human sense, some would call it a fiery trial, or the refiner’s fire where metal is tested.  A crucible, or fiery trial can be brief or prolonged.   It can produce something better, or something worse.  The result of the refiner’s fire, often depends on the metal being tested.

Simply put, a crucible is a place or situation that forces people to change or make difficult decisions; a place or situation where different elements interact to produce something new.

Scottish historian and award-winning author makes a very good point to consider, “The point needs to be made that all individuals ground their view of the world within some conception of moral authority.  Not only those who are (religious) in a traditional sense, but also those who claim to have no (religious) faith at all, base their views of the world in unprovable assumptions and ‘being’ and ‘knowledge’.”

Hunter goes on to say, “Within communities that hold orthodox views, moral authority arises from a common commitment to transcendence, by which I mean a dynamic reality that is independent of, prior to, and more powerful than [...]

21 11, 2016

Resilience Can Be Learned – Emotional Intelligence (EQ) Matters

Resilience – Are we ever in need of a HUGE dose of it about now.   The culture chaos all around us has so much to do with emotional intelligence (EQ), also known as Resilience.   

Researcher Daniel Goleman, in his groundbreaking brain and behavioral research shows a shift in how we see IQ and life success.

What is EQ, Resilience anyway?   Up until 2012, in my studies to become a Certified Life Coach, I had never heard the term before.   Was it ever eye opening and life changing to learn how much of a road block the lack of EQ (Emotional Intelligence), or Resilience can be in one’s life.

Emotional Intelligence includes self-awareness and impulse control, persistence, zeal or enthusiasm and self-motivation, empathy and social deftness or skillfulness, ability without difficulty.   The really good news is these all can be acquired.

In his book, Emotional Intelligence – Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, Dr. Goleman points out that the qualities I just listed above mark people who excel in real life: “whose intimate relationships flourish, who are stars in the workplace.  These are the hallmarks of character and self-displine, of altruism or selflessness and compassion – basic capacities needed if our society is to thrive.”

Why is emotional intelligence, resilience so important for right now as well as success moving forward?   Well, to put it right out there, the personal costs of deficits in emotional intelligence or resilience can range from problems in marriage and parenting to poor physical health.   “New research shows that chronic anger and anxiety create as great a health risk as chain smoking.”  Lack of emotional intelligence, or resilience can sabotage the intellect and ruin careers.  “Perhaps the greatest toll is on children, for whom risks include [...]

19 11, 2016

Reset Button – Words Lift Up & Words Tear Down – Lead in LOVE

Come together, right now….we need to agree to disagree in some cases.  At the end of the day, we need to consider the children of the future.   Protecting them and their innocence.

We must lead in LOVE. 

LifeVictory is thematic – The theme LEADS in LOVE, everything else is elementary and follows.

WORDS fitly spoken can heal…it is time to heal.

Join me in sharing words that heal.  

Peace,

Deborah

 

22 09, 2016

Thankfulness…Truth…Trust – September’s theme

As you’ve likely guess by now if you’ve read many of my blogs….I love words.   Words have the power to lift up and the power to tear down.

The truth matters in building trust.   

Love rejoices when the truth wins out!

“If you abide in My word, you are My disciples. And you shall know the truth and the truth will make you free.”                  – Jesus

Being thankful with a grateful heart.   Having an attitude of gratitude are live changing principles.   Neuroscience of the brain is proving that your brain is healthier in a state of gratitude.  It increases the endorphins in your brain.  And that’s the truth.  

As I mentioned earlier, truth matters in building trust.   If you’ve ever been in a relationship where your trust was violated or betrayed because the other person was not being truthful to you.   That person has to regain your trust by being honest & truthful to you.

Perhaps you are the one who has betrayed someone’s trust because you weren’t telling the truth.   You do not have to stay stuck there.  You can take responsibility for your actions, ask forgiveness and make the commitment to honesty and truth. 

#truthmatters

#trustmatters

#thankfulnessmatters

Speak the truth in love, Be thankful in all things, Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths in good ways.

Peace to You!

Deborah

 

 

 

 

Independence Day approaches…..

….as Independence Day approaches I want to encourage you to consider how interdependent you are to the people around you.  Even though we live in a world that prizes and exalts independence, we are so very intertwined and interdependent upon each other!   Even high performance CEOs, professionals or Olympic athletes have coaches and a team around them to journey along with them towards their journey to accomplish their goals.  Their is an innate need for interdependence and community.  

Independence Day in the United States of America is significant in gaining independence from Great Britian, just think if our ancestors, who weren’t perfect and made mistakes along the way, had not fought and joined together interdependently it’s truly a wonder where we would all be today?  On Independence Day we think of our history, we sing the national anthem or hear someone else with goosebumps running down our spine with pride.

With a son currently serving as a Sergeant in the United States Marine Corp I think about how truly interdependent he is with he unit – all for one and one for all.  No man left behind.  They would not be able to protect and rescue the weak if  they were not a strongly intertwined unit looking out for each other and their mission together.

I encourage you to surround yourself with people who encourage your individuality but don’t mistake that with independence.  You are a unique individual but you become even greater based on the people you surround yourself with and are interdependent and intertwined with.  Are they helping you reach your highest and best potential?

The most important intertwined and interdependent relationship you can have in this life is with Papa God, He loves you so much and knows you so well and wants only the [...]

2 06, 2016

Value Virtuous Vision

It is said that without a vision people perish!   I think that requires looking outside of ourselves, to something, or Someone far greater than ourselves.   Vision comes from a greater purpose firmly grounded and rooted in who we are and what we were created to be in the Image of God.  A vision, mission and purpose of our greatest and highest contribution to the world around us.   A vision to be a world changer, not just to suit ourselves, but to Be a World Changer Created in the Image of God.   That’s a vision outside of ourselves.  Thinking outside the box.

A vision that builds on virtue, a pursuit of excellence.  A form of bravery, strength, moral excellence and valor out of a sincere love for God, distinguised from religion.

Because, we value and give importance to the things God Values.  

We live in a world of great contrasts, to put it mildly.

Vision has a lot to do with faith.  But faith in what, or shall I say who?  We put a lot of faith and hope in a lot of people and things.   People and things that don’t bring us to a better place.   Not that they are not valuable, but we need to ask ourselves is this person or thing in our life helping us build on and greater vision and purpose for our lives.

Vision without God is void of clear purpose and clarity.   It’s like seeing life with the glass half empty instead of half full.  A life full of abundance, love, possibilities, and hope for a brighter future despite what we see in front of us.  Without vision we lose hope, which leads me back full circle to my first statement….without a vision people perish.  

If you are looking for vision, hope, purpose, a sense of knowing your true God given value and purpose (not matter what the world is telling you – [...]

7 05, 2016

A Mother Ponders Mother’s Day…………..

Solemn Birthday my Sweet Guinevere Rose!

You would have been 35 years old this Mother’s Day had we said YES to the LIFE you were meant to LIVE.

Had we said YES to you and run fully into the arms of Papa God for forgiveness, instead we chose to continue along the path of lies and deception, deceiving ourselves and all around us, who could have helped us choose LIFE for you. The path into darkness grew for more than 2 decades….impacting every aspect of our marriage, parenting and our lives. We ignored the LIFE, and her impact, of our first child we chose to snuff out.
By the grace of God our marriage survived, hanging on by a thread….that thread was Jesus! Even though the church, the body of Christ, was all around us no one ever talked about the need to heal from abortion. Oh, maybe a short conversion, placing a little bandaid over the wound. In fact, abortion was rarely talked about….it was one of those taboo subjects….”too political” and “too divisive”! Such little understanding of how GOD WEPT over the brokenness He saw in His own children who were too busy “playing church” rather than BEING His church….
Yet, in our silence so many wounded and broken souls walked in and out of the doors of the church without a word to open the door, even a crack, to God’s healing grace from the deep soul wound of abortion trauma. Yes, the wound is deep, permeating every nook and cranny of one’s life. The open festering wound oozing, with it’s infectious poison, into every aspect of a woman’s life *spirit-soul-body* UNTIL one day, Oh bright and glorious day, the light of Jesus [...]

3 05, 2016

April Showers Bring May Flowers right? What else does May bring?

May does certainly bring glorious flowering beauty, there is no doubt about that!

But for some, the arrival of Mother’s Day brings with it a very mixed bag of emotions!  I know, I was one of those women.  On occasions it creeps up on me unexpectedly, like yesterday!  

I just felt “off” emotionally and physical the last couple of days.   It was a bit confusing, trying to figure out if I might have eaten something that just didn’t set in my stomach very well?   Maybe I hadn’t drank enough water that day?   Maybe I was catching a flu bug of some kind?  I began to pray and ask God (maybe that’s where I should have started in the first place 😉 ?

I asked God what was going on with me?   He knows me better than anyone else and He always tells me the truth and is straight up with me, no matter what.   He wants the best for me, He loves me and I can always count on Him to give me the straight scoop!   He leads me beside still waters.   He restores my soul.   He’s walked me through the valley of the shadow of death and I fear no one or no thing.   

So, as I quietly asked, pondered and waited for His reply, in His still small voice, He answered me…”remember when….Guinevere Rose would have been born?  I have healed your broken, shattered and wounded soul, yet you still carry the scar.   I have restored your confusion, I have renewed your mind, I have created a new thing….all sin is forgiven and you have been set free from your self-made prison.  Yet, the memories you do not forget my child, not completely. [...]

19 04, 2016

Faith, Forgiveness & Freedom are April’s theme…

Wow!  What a month so far!!

I love this month’s theme….FAITH, FORGIVENESS & FREEDOM!  

And has this ever been a month that emphasizes all three quite profoundly!

This past Friday I returned from an 8 day whirlwind trip to our nation’s Capitol, Washington, D.C. 

I wasn’t there for sightseeing, although I did spend a little time at The Lincoln Memorial and UnitedCry 2016 between Reflecting Pool, Washington Monument (reaching high into the sky) and a treat to get to visit, David’s Tent in the middle of the National Mall.

My whole trip was an incredible step of FAITH!!  Many steps of faith led me down this path.  Stepping out in faith, overcoming fear!  

God set a fire in my belly for social justice and righteousness!  

What is faith anyway?  Faith is believing in something you don’t see yet.   Believing for something greater than yourself.   Believing in a vision that you just know deep down in your knower!  A drive, a passion coupled with purpose!  

Having the faith to forgive brings with it a freedom and clarity that gives you tremendous ability to overcome fear and doubt.   It’s one of those supernatural principles that isn’t easily explained.   It just is!  Where the Spirit of the Lord is there is freedom!  

The just shall live by faith, not by sight.

Pure heart, pure mind, pure soul are a path to faithful freedom.   Not just faith in faith, but faith in The One who created you, knows you best and all of the amazing things you are capable of.

Are you struggling with your faith?  Are you struggling to forgive someone, perhaps even struggling to forgive yourself?   Do you want to finally experience the freedom that just seems so elusive?

All of this is possible!  Faith, Forgiveness & Freedom can ALL be yours!  Let’s talk!

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23 03, 2016

4 Steps to Peace

Seems like a pretty tall order….Just 4 Steps to Peace….really?   Yes, really!

Peace in the true sense of the word does not come from the world, it comes from within.  Through a deep, abiding sense of well-being that comes from your divine and loving Creator God.   I like to call Him, Papa God.  

Now, with that said, you may be wanting to run for the hills, or at least go run and hide.   But I ask you to pause, take a deep cleansing breath, and as you are inhaling and exhaling I want you to think of one thing you are thankful for.   You see, inner peace starts with our thinking, our mind, our heart, our thoughts, when our thoughts are focused on worry, can create feelings which can send us on a wild ride of anxiety.

However, their is a better way!  

Let me unpack the 4 Steps….

Don’t worry about anything
Pray about everything
Tell God what you need
Thank God for all He has done

Here’s the deal, If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand.  His Peace will guard your heart and mind as you live in Christ Jesus.  Really and truly!

Are you always scurrying about, keeping busy?  Trying to fix everything on your own?  Left with little or no time to just pause and get quiet.   Reflect on even one thing you are thankful for.   If you can’t think of one thing, here’s one.  So start with God’s really truly LOVES YOU just the way you are. Did you know you are created in the image of God for love and good works?  Has anyone ever told you that before?  Let that settle deeply inside of you.  Repeat it to yourself. [...]