Righteousness, Rest and Resilience

9 07, 2017

Our Interdependence on Independence Day & Everyday

In Celebration of the signing of the Declaration of Independence lets also remember how interdependent we are upon each other.   Our country’s independence from a foreign dictator could have never been accomplished without the unity of those fighting for that independence.    They were interdependent upon each other.

Thomas Paine famously wrote in “The American Crisis” pamphlet during the American Revolutionary War, “These are times that try men’s (and women’s) souls.”

Some say we are in a crucible in our nation.   If so, how will we as individuals, and how as a nation will we respond.

First, what is a crucible?  It’s a container where metals are melted, or subjected to very high temperatures.  In a human sense, some would call it a fiery trial, or the refiner’s fire where metal is tested.  A crucible, or fiery trial can be brief or prolonged.   It can produce something better, or something worse.  The result of the refiner’s fire, often depends on the metal being tested.

Simply put, a crucible is a place or situation that forces people to change or make difficult decisions; a place or situation where different elements interact to produce something new.

Scottish historian and award-winning author makes a very good point to consider, “The point needs to be made that all individuals ground their view of the world within some conception of moral authority.  Not only those who are (religious) in a traditional sense, but also those who claim to have no (religious) faith at all, base their views of the world in unprovable assumptions and ‘being’ and ‘knowledge’.”

Hunter goes on to say, “Within communities that hold orthodox views, moral authority arises from a common commitment to transcendence, by which I mean a dynamic reality that is independent of, prior to, and more powerful than [...]

21 11, 2016

Resilience Can Be Learned – Emotional Intelligence (EQ) Matters

Resilience – Are we ever in need of a HUGE dose of it about now.   The culture chaos all around us has so much to do with emotional intelligence (EQ), also known as Resilience.   

Researcher Daniel Goleman, in his groundbreaking brain and behavioral research shows a shift in how we see IQ and life success.

What is EQ, Resilience anyway?   Up until 2012, in my studies to become a Certified Life Coach, I had never heard the term before.   Was it ever eye opening and life changing to learn how much of a road block the lack of EQ (Emotional Intelligence), or Resilience can be in one’s life.

Emotional Intelligence includes self-awareness and impulse control, persistence, zeal or enthusiasm and self-motivation, empathy and social deftness or skillfulness, ability without difficulty.   The really good news is these all can be acquired.

In his book, Emotional Intelligence – Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, Dr. Goleman points out that the qualities I just listed above mark people who excel in real life: “whose intimate relationships flourish, who are stars in the workplace.  These are the hallmarks of character and self-displine, of altruism or selflessness and compassion – basic capacities needed if our society is to thrive.”

Why is emotional intelligence, resilience so important for right now as well as success moving forward?   Well, to put it right out there, the personal costs of deficits in emotional intelligence or resilience can range from problems in marriage and parenting to poor physical health.   “New research shows that chronic anger and anxiety create as great a health risk as chain smoking.”  Lack of emotional intelligence, or resilience can sabotage the intellect and ruin careers.  “Perhaps the greatest toll is on children, for whom risks include [...]

19 11, 2016

Reset Button – Words Lift Up & Words Tear Down – Lead in LOVE

Come together, right now….we need to agree to disagree in some cases.  At the end of the day, we need to consider the children of the future.   Protecting them and their innocence.

We must lead in LOVE. 

LifeVictory is thematic – The theme LEADS in LOVE, everything else is elementary and follows.

WORDS fitly spoken can heal…it is time to heal.

Join me in sharing words that heal.  

Peace,

Deborah

 

19 04, 2016

Faith, Forgiveness & Freedom are April’s theme…

Wow!  What a month so far!!

I love this month’s theme….FAITH, FORGIVENESS & FREEDOM!  

And has this ever been a month that emphasizes all three quite profoundly!

This past Friday I returned from an 8 day whirlwind trip to our nation’s Capitol, Washington, D.C. 

I wasn’t there for sightseeing, although I did spend a little time at The Lincoln Memorial and UnitedCry 2016 between Reflecting Pool, Washington Monument (reaching high into the sky) and a treat to get to visit, David’s Tent in the middle of the National Mall.

My whole trip was an incredible step of FAITH!!  Many steps of faith led me down this path.  Stepping out in faith, overcoming fear!  

God set a fire in my belly for social justice and righteousness!  

What is faith anyway?  Faith is believing in something you don’t see yet.   Believing for something greater than yourself.   Believing in a vision that you just know deep down in your knower!  A drive, a passion coupled with purpose!  

Having the faith to forgive brings with it a freedom and clarity that gives you tremendous ability to overcome fear and doubt.   It’s one of those supernatural principles that isn’t easily explained.   It just is!  Where the Spirit of the Lord is there is freedom!  

The just shall live by faith, not by sight.

Pure heart, pure mind, pure soul are a path to faithful freedom.   Not just faith in faith, but faith in The One who created you, knows you best and all of the amazing things you are capable of.

Are you struggling with your faith?  Are you struggling to forgive someone, perhaps even struggling to forgive yourself?   Do you want to finally experience the freedom that just seems so elusive?

All of this is possible!  Faith, Forgiveness & Freedom can ALL be yours!  Let’s talk!

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20 11, 2015

A Time for Resilience….

Are there times when you feel like everything and everyone is against you?

Always remember GOD is for you!  I am for you!

The seasons of life come and go.   There are life lessons to learn.   Surrounding yourself with wise counsel is an important choice you make.   Who are the people you have in your inner circle?   Are they encouraging you or are they trying to keep you down.  Not everyone should be in your inner circle.

Resilience is about having the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties, a toughness to persevere.  To continue on a course of action even in the face of difficulty or with little or no prospect of success.   Success isn’t always about the destination though, there is so much you can gain in the journey.

Hang in there!  Never give up, never give up, NEVER GIVE UP!  Be Resilient! 

If you need help doing this, or even grasping it, you are not alone.   Let’s connect and see just how resilient you are or can be.   You have a cheerleader!

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7 11, 2015

Resilience…..another word for Emotional Intelligence (EQ)

Resilience is your ability to bounce back in the midst of adversity and overcome the hurdles of life.  It measures your aptitude for social and emotional interactions and skills that are critical for life success.

Emotional and relational intelligence (ERQ) is being aware of, recognize and understand our own emotions – taking ownership of our own emotions.  As well as those of others around us, and being able to constructively manage our own emotions and how they relate to the relationships around us.

Did you know that ERQ has been found to be more important in the scope of life success than someone’s IQ?

I don’t know about you but that gives me hope.   You are born with your IQ, but your ERQ can be improved upon and changed – a skill to build upon.   That’s cool!

Self-Awareness (Me) is the first key – Emotional Self-Awareness, Emotional Expression, Accurate Self-Assessment build towards Self-Confidence.

Self-Management (I) is second – Emotional Self Control, Anger Management and Self-Responsible – in other words taking responsibility.

Relational Awareness (Us) is third – Relational Awareness has to do with Empathy towards others.  Noticing that someone is in pain.  Being present.  Knowing what “not” to say.  Recognizing emotions in others.

When it comes to Empathy, the secret is listening, not talking.   Learning to be a good listener builds your empathy towards others.

Relational Management (We) is fourth – It encompasses 7 simple steps of ERQ empowerment:

#1 – Define the issue:  Listen & Seek Understanding (Seek First to Understand before being Understood)

#2 – Decide how important the issue is?

#3 – Do you need to apologize or ask for forgiveness? I was wrong.  I am sorry.  Please forgive me.  This isn’t always easy if we haven’t had it [...]

30 11, 2014

Thankfulness in the midst of hardship

How hard is that?

Hardship is part of life for sure. But do we let the hardship harden our hearts, make us cynical, sarcastic and angry?

OR, do we let it grow our appreciation for the lessons learned, count our blessings, grow in character and resilience?

A few years back I did some study of centenarians, 100 years old +, two things they had in common was an ability to take life’s ups and downs, the good, the bad and the ugly, in stride. And the faith to believe that hardships do pass and to find humor wherever possible. And, by all means counting their blessings.

I wanna be like that!

Resilience and Thankfulness play such and important role in our lives and making lemonade out of life’s lemons and yummy cherry pie out of the pits!

Happy Thanksgiving y’all!

11 11, 2014

Righteousness ~ Reconciliation ~ Rest are November’s theme

I don’t know about you but I get excited about words and the meaning they bring to our lives!

Words have power to lift up and encourage or tear down

The quality of the words we use really do dictate the quality of our lives.

Righteousness is interchangeable with justice. We all want justice for the injustices we see around us. But righteousness is a greater word in that it reflects God’s nature and His standards of what is just.

Being reconciled to God helps us know how to carry out wise justice in our world that is necessary for rightness in our world.

And last but certainly not least rest. Rest for our soul and our body. Creating margin in our lives from so much busyness. The hustle bustle of life can stress and strain us to no end. God gave us the gift of rest so we could rejuvenate ourselves – disconnect from tasks and the to-do lists. We were not created to work seven days and be on the go go go 24/7. Rest helps our mind filter things out.

Rest lets us rejuvenate, recreate, recharge for our work. Please don’t ignore the value of rest. Take care of yourself ~ YOU are loved, YOU are valued.

Peace!

25 08, 2014

Perfect Character, Perfect Bliss

“These seven descriptions make up a perfect character, and the seven blessings appended when combined constitute perfect bliss.”

“The whole seven rise one above another like the steps of a ladder of light, and the blessings appropriate to each grow out of the virtues described.”

“At the close of the seven BEatitudes of character comes an eighth and double benediction bestowed on the persecuted condition as a result of holiness. The whole makeup a celestial octave of benediction.”
– C. H. Spurgeon

I love the richness and depth of Spurgeon’s writings!

Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount was one of Jesus’ first teachings to the masses. In Matthew 5…Blessed are the poor in spirit; for their’s is the kingdom of heaven. (The first step of the ladder is low, and the more readily reached. Those who know their spiritual poverty are the only ones who by faith can lay hold on the true riches of grace.)

Blessed are they that mourn: for they will be comforted. (To their sense of need is now added holy sorrow for sin; this leads them to Jesus, [...]

28 05, 2013

Righteousness, Peace and Joy