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21 11, 2016

Resilience Can Be Learned – Emotional Intelligence (EQ) Matters

Resilience – Are we ever in need of a HUGE dose of it about now.   The culture chaos all around us has so much to do with emotional intelligence (EQ), also known as Resilience.   

Researcher Daniel Goleman, in his groundbreaking brain and behavioral research shows a shift in how we see IQ and life success.

What is EQ, Resilience anyway?   Up until 2012, in my studies to become a Certified Life Coach, I had never heard the term before.   Was it ever eye opening and life changing to learn how much of a road block the lack of EQ (Emotional Intelligence), or Resilience can be in one’s life.

Emotional Intelligence includes self-awareness and impulse control, persistence, zeal or enthusiasm and self-motivation, empathy and social deftness or skillfulness, ability without difficulty.   The really good news is these all can be acquired.

In his book, Emotional Intelligence – Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, Dr. Goleman points out that the qualities I just listed above mark people who excel in real life: “whose intimate relationships flourish, who are stars in the workplace.  These are the hallmarks of character and self-displine, of altruism or selflessness and compassion – basic capacities needed if our society is to thrive.”

Why is emotional intelligence, resilience so important for right now as well as success moving forward?   Well, to put it right out there, the personal costs of deficits in emotional intelligence or resilience can range from problems in marriage and parenting to poor physical health.   “New research shows that chronic anger and anxiety create as great a health risk as chain smoking.”  Lack of emotional intelligence, or resilience can sabotage the intellect and ruin careers.  “Perhaps the greatest toll is on children, for whom risks include [...]

19 11, 2016

Reset Button – Words Lift Up & Words Tear Down – Lead in LOVE

Come together, right now….we need to agree to disagree in some cases.  At the end of the day, we need to consider the children of the future.   Protecting them and their innocence.

We must lead in LOVE. 

LifeVictory is thematic – The theme LEADS in LOVE, everything else is elementary and follows.

WORDS fitly spoken can heal…it is time to heal.

Join me in sharing words that heal.  

Peace,

Deborah

 

7 05, 2016

A Mother Ponders Mother’s Day…………..

Solemn Birthday my Sweet Guinevere Rose!

You would have been 35 years old this Mother’s Day had we said YES to the LIFE you were meant to LIVE.

Had we said YES to you and run fully into the arms of Papa God for forgiveness, instead we chose to continue along the path of lies and deception, deceiving ourselves and all around us, who could have helped us choose LIFE for you. The path into darkness grew for more than 2 decades….impacting every aspect of our marriage, parenting and our lives. We ignored the LIFE, and her impact, of our first child we chose to snuff out.
By the grace of God our marriage survived, hanging on by a thread….that thread was Jesus! Even though the church, the body of Christ, was all around us no one ever talked about the need to heal from abortion. Oh, maybe a short conversion, placing a little bandaid over the wound. In fact, abortion was rarely talked about….it was one of those taboo subjects….”too political” and “too divisive”! Such little understanding of how GOD WEPT over the brokenness He saw in His own children who were too busy “playing church” rather than BEING His church….
Yet, in our silence so many wounded and broken souls walked in and out of the doors of the church without a word to open the door, even a crack, to God’s healing grace from the deep soul wound of abortion trauma. Yes, the wound is deep, permeating every nook and cranny of one’s life. The open festering wound oozing, with it’s infectious poison, into every aspect of a woman’s life *spirit-soul-body* UNTIL one day, Oh bright and glorious day, the light of Jesus [...]

3 05, 2016

April Showers Bring May Flowers right? What else does May bring?

May does certainly bring glorious flowering beauty, there is no doubt about that!

But for some, the arrival of Mother’s Day brings with it a very mixed bag of emotions!  I know, I was one of those women.  On occasions it creeps up on me unexpectedly, like yesterday!  

I just felt “off” emotionally and physical the last couple of days.   It was a bit confusing, trying to figure out if I might have eaten something that just didn’t set in my stomach very well?   Maybe I hadn’t drank enough water that day?   Maybe I was catching a flu bug of some kind?  I began to pray and ask God (maybe that’s where I should have started in the first place 😉 ?

I asked God what was going on with me?   He knows me better than anyone else and He always tells me the truth and is straight up with me, no matter what.   He wants the best for me, He loves me and I can always count on Him to give me the straight scoop!   He leads me beside still waters.   He restores my soul.   He’s walked me through the valley of the shadow of death and I fear no one or no thing.   

So, as I quietly asked, pondered and waited for His reply, in His still small voice, He answered me…”remember when….Guinevere Rose would have been born?  I have healed your broken, shattered and wounded soul, yet you still carry the scar.   I have restored your confusion, I have renewed your mind, I have created a new thing….all sin is forgiven and you have been set free from your self-made prison.  Yet, the memories you do not forget my child, not completely. [...]

19 04, 2016

Faith, Forgiveness & Freedom are April’s theme…

Wow!  What a month so far!!

I love this month’s theme….FAITH, FORGIVENESS & FREEDOM!  

And has this ever been a month that emphasizes all three quite profoundly!

This past Friday I returned from an 8 day whirlwind trip to our nation’s Capitol, Washington, D.C. 

I wasn’t there for sightseeing, although I did spend a little time at The Lincoln Memorial and UnitedCry 2016 between Reflecting Pool, Washington Monument (reaching high into the sky) and a treat to get to visit, David’s Tent in the middle of the National Mall.

My whole trip was an incredible step of FAITH!!  Many steps of faith led me down this path.  Stepping out in faith, overcoming fear!  

God set a fire in my belly for social justice and righteousness!  

What is faith anyway?  Faith is believing in something you don’t see yet.   Believing for something greater than yourself.   Believing in a vision that you just know deep down in your knower!  A drive, a passion coupled with purpose!  

Having the faith to forgive brings with it a freedom and clarity that gives you tremendous ability to overcome fear and doubt.   It’s one of those supernatural principles that isn’t easily explained.   It just is!  Where the Spirit of the Lord is there is freedom!  

The just shall live by faith, not by sight.

Pure heart, pure mind, pure soul are a path to faithful freedom.   Not just faith in faith, but faith in The One who created you, knows you best and all of the amazing things you are capable of.

Are you struggling with your faith?  Are you struggling to forgive someone, perhaps even struggling to forgive yourself?   Do you want to finally experience the freedom that just seems so elusive?

All of this is possible!  Faith, Forgiveness & Freedom can ALL be yours!  Let’s talk!

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13 11, 2014

Mommy Baby Rescue

Getting the text at 8:15 a.m. “I am at the clinic right now” dropped a lead weight in my gut. Everything in me screamed, “No! Ending the life of your 5 1/2 month old baby in your womb will not solve your problems, it creates new ones!”

We had talked the night before and I shared my story of my abortion trauma experience and the things I so wished I had been told by the abortion clinic – the same one she was sitting in, but 34 years prior.

She didn’t want to go through with the abortion but she hadn’t been given other options either. This appointment was her 5th visit – every time she would walk out of the clinic because in her words, “Why should my baby be punished with a death sentence, he’s done nothing wrong. How could I hurt him like that? I just don’t know what else to do!”

I texted her back to see if we could meet, I will come to you. And would it be ok to bring a friend who is a specialist in open adoptions to at least give her more information about her options. All of them. And also, the known risk factors and aftermath of abortion trauma, especially at 5 1/2 months pregnant. Women Deserve Full Disclosure

I could feel the adrenal rushing through my body as the thought came to my mind, “MommyBabyRescue!” In my mind’s eye I saw an enormous guardian angel standing behind and protecting a pregnant mommy with her hands gently and protectively placed over her burgeoning belly. It was a beautiful picture [...]

25 08, 2014

Perfect Character, Perfect Bliss

“These seven descriptions make up a perfect character, and the seven blessings appended when combined constitute perfect bliss.”

“The whole seven rise one above another like the steps of a ladder of light, and the blessings appropriate to each grow out of the virtues described.”

“At the close of the seven BEatitudes of character comes an eighth and double benediction bestowed on the persecuted condition as a result of holiness. The whole makeup a celestial octave of benediction.”
– C. H. Spurgeon

I love the richness and depth of Spurgeon’s writings!

Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount was one of Jesus’ first teachings to the masses. In Matthew 5…Blessed are the poor in spirit; for their’s is the kingdom of heaven. (The first step of the ladder is low, and the more readily reached. Those who know their spiritual poverty are the only ones who by faith can lay hold on the true riches of grace.)

Blessed are they that mourn: for they will be comforted. (To their sense of need is now added holy sorrow for sin; this leads them to Jesus, [...]

10 06, 2013

The labels this world tries to put on yo

The labels this world tries to put on you just put you in a box that you were never meant to fit into…so limiting!

You were created for something very unique, beautiful, pure, righteous, joy filled and loving….you were created in the Image of God for good works. http://ow.ly/i/2kjMM

6 06, 2013

VISION & VIRTUE….LifeVictory highlight

VISION & VIRTUE….LifeVictory highlights for the month of June. If you’ve been following us for a while each month is a different LIFE principle. L.I.F.E.V.I.C.T.O.R.Y.

What do these two words mean to you?

Virtue isn’t a word commonly used these days…I think it’s time to bring it back into vogue…I think it could solve a tremendous amount of problems today….that’s my VISION! Behavior reflecting a high moral standard.

What would a virtuous vision look like to you? Does Papa God have a virtuous vision for the world and what would that look like? http://ow.ly/i/2i6qD

28 05, 2013

Righteousness, Peace and Joy

The Kingdom of God is Righteousness, Peace and Joy!! – Romans 14:17

How does that resonate in your heart, mind and soul as you speak it aloud? http://ow.ly/i/2dYIp