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1 02, 2017

February 1st, 2017…new month, new day in a new year :)

Where did January go?!

February 1st, 2017…new month, new day in a new year.

How did January go for you? Was it everything you hoped it would be? Or did it knock you up side the head or pull the rug out from underneath you? Or somewhere in between? Mine completely knocked me for a loop.  Life can do that!

The morning of January 1st my father and I, and my family, sadly greeted the year with the passing of my dear mother. It’s been a whirlwind of a month, being the oldest daughter in the family and giving caregiving assistance to my father in the care of my mother – everything is different, except for the love and care in our family, it has grown deeper and stronger. Mom would have wanted it that way.

So, we pick up the broken pieces of our hearts – we remember the good times and memories with mom. We keep her love in our hearts. We come alongside my dad as he moves through life without his lifelong partner of 60 years, wow! That’s a long time <3 They stuck together through the good, the bad and the ugly, and believe me their was plenty of ugly.  They persevered, not always sure how they were going to make it through the winters of their relationship, but always remembering that spring and summer were just around the corner.  No matter how dark and bleak it seemed at the time – they hung on. For that I am so grateful!
As their teenage daughter, I was part of creating some of the UGLY they had to deal with in our lives and their marriage. Sorting it all out isn’t easy and [...]

21 11, 2016

Resilience Can Be Learned – Emotional Intelligence (EQ) Matters

Resilience – Are we ever in need of a HUGE dose of it about now.   The culture chaos all around us has so much to do with emotional intelligence (EQ), also known as Resilience.   

Researcher Daniel Goleman, in his groundbreaking brain and behavioral research shows a shift in how we see IQ and life success.

What is EQ, Resilience anyway?   Up until 2012, in my studies to become a Certified Life Coach, I had never heard the term before.   Was it ever eye opening and life changing to learn how much of a road block the lack of EQ (Emotional Intelligence), or Resilience can be in one’s life.

Emotional Intelligence includes self-awareness and impulse control, persistence, zeal or enthusiasm and self-motivation, empathy and social deftness or skillfulness, ability without difficulty.   The really good news is these all can be acquired.

In his book, Emotional Intelligence – Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, Dr. Goleman points out that the qualities I just listed above mark people who excel in real life: “whose intimate relationships flourish, who are stars in the workplace.  These are the hallmarks of character and self-displine, of altruism or selflessness and compassion – basic capacities needed if our society is to thrive.”

Why is emotional intelligence, resilience so important for right now as well as success moving forward?   Well, to put it right out there, the personal costs of deficits in emotional intelligence or resilience can range from problems in marriage and parenting to poor physical health.   “New research shows that chronic anger and anxiety create as great a health risk as chain smoking.”  Lack of emotional intelligence, or resilience can sabotage the intellect and ruin careers.  “Perhaps the greatest toll is on children, for whom risks include [...]

19 11, 2016

Reset Button – Words Lift Up & Words Tear Down – Lead in LOVE

Come together, right now….we need to agree to disagree in some cases.  At the end of the day, we need to consider the children of the future.   Protecting them and their innocence.

We must lead in LOVE. 

LifeVictory is thematic – The theme LEADS in LOVE, everything else is elementary and follows.

WORDS fitly spoken can heal…it is time to heal.

Join me in sharing words that heal.  

Peace,

Deborah

 

22 09, 2016

Thankfulness…Truth…Trust – September’s theme

As you’ve likely guess by now if you’ve read many of my blogs….I love words.   Words have the power to lift up and the power to tear down.

The truth matters in building trust.   

Love rejoices when the truth wins out!

“If you abide in My word, you are My disciples. And you shall know the truth and the truth will make you free.”                  – Jesus

Being thankful with a grateful heart.   Having an attitude of gratitude are live changing principles.   Neuroscience of the brain is proving that your brain is healthier in a state of gratitude.  It increases the endorphins in your brain.  And that’s the truth.  

As I mentioned earlier, truth matters in building trust.   If you’ve ever been in a relationship where your trust was violated or betrayed because the other person was not being truthful to you.   That person has to regain your trust by being honest & truthful to you.

Perhaps you are the one who has betrayed someone’s trust because you weren’t telling the truth.   You do not have to stay stuck there.  You can take responsibility for your actions, ask forgiveness and make the commitment to honesty and truth. 

#truthmatters

#trustmatters

#thankfulnessmatters

Speak the truth in love, Be thankful in all things, Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths in good ways.

Peace to You!

Deborah

 

 

 

 

Independence Day approaches…..

….as Independence Day approaches I want to encourage you to consider how interdependent you are to the people around you.  Even though we live in a world that prizes and exalts independence, we are so very intertwined and interdependent upon each other!   Even high performance CEOs, professionals or Olympic athletes have coaches and a team around them to journey along with them towards their journey to accomplish their goals.  Their is an innate need for interdependence and community.  

Independence Day in the United States of America is significant in gaining independence from Great Britian, just think if our ancestors, who weren’t perfect and made mistakes along the way, had not fought and joined together interdependently it’s truly a wonder where we would all be today?  On Independence Day we think of our history, we sing the national anthem or hear someone else with goosebumps running down our spine with pride.

With a son currently serving as a Sergeant in the United States Marine Corp I think about how truly interdependent he is with he unit – all for one and one for all.  No man left behind.  They would not be able to protect and rescue the weak if  they were not a strongly intertwined unit looking out for each other and their mission together.

I encourage you to surround yourself with people who encourage your individuality but don’t mistake that with independence.  You are a unique individual but you become even greater based on the people you surround yourself with and are interdependent and intertwined with.  Are they helping you reach your highest and best potential?

The most important intertwined and interdependent relationship you can have in this life is with Papa God, He loves you so much and knows you so well and wants only the [...]

2 06, 2016

Value Virtuous Vision

It is said that without a vision people perish!   I think that requires looking outside of ourselves, to something, or Someone far greater than ourselves.   Vision comes from a greater purpose firmly grounded and rooted in who we are and what we were created to be in the Image of God.  A vision, mission and purpose of our greatest and highest contribution to the world around us.   A vision to be a world changer, not just to suit ourselves, but to Be a World Changer Created in the Image of God.   That’s a vision outside of ourselves.  Thinking outside the box.

A vision that builds on virtue, a pursuit of excellence.  A form of bravery, strength, moral excellence and valor out of a sincere love for God, distinguised from religion.

Because, we value and give importance to the things God Values.  

We live in a world of great contrasts, to put it mildly.

Vision has a lot to do with faith.  But faith in what, or shall I say who?  We put a lot of faith and hope in a lot of people and things.   People and things that don’t bring us to a better place.   Not that they are not valuable, but we need to ask ourselves is this person or thing in our life helping us build on and greater vision and purpose for our lives.

Vision without God is void of clear purpose and clarity.   It’s like seeing life with the glass half empty instead of half full.  A life full of abundance, love, possibilities, and hope for a brighter future despite what we see in front of us.  Without vision we lose hope, which leads me back full circle to my first statement….without a vision people perish.  

If you are looking for vision, hope, purpose, a sense of knowing your true God given value and purpose (not matter what the world is telling you – [...]

1 12, 2015

Ok, enough!…of your political rhetoric President Obama and Cecile Richards

For you to use your position to EXPLOIT, once ago, and ATTACK, innocent people for your own political gain in the wake of the most recent TRAGEDY in Colorado Springs!  Three people died, or did you miss that memo?

The man who did this was NOT PRO-LIFE, if he had been TRULY PRO-LIFE, he could have and would have NEVER done such a thing.

You see, President Obama and Cecile Richards, TRUE PRO-LIFERS offer hope, not false hope and falsehoods.   TRUE PRO-LIFERS believe that ALL human beings have value, NOT just the ones you choose to value or who can advance your political agenda and parrot your rhetoric and talking points.

LET’S GET REAL!

This tragic event took place in a location that BREEDS violence against women and children.   The spiritual atmosphere is death and violence, which breeds more death and violence!  Think about it?!

This tragic event took place at a legal abortion clinic – Planned Parenthood.  Planned Parenthood would like to add the words “safe” in their rhetoric.   However, the latest best available science does not prove that, but instead contests it.   They claim to care about women’s healthcare, yet continue to ignore the latest and best available science and worldwide research.

The most recently published reference guide, that should be used as a textbook, Complications – Abortions Impact on Women, compiles 650+ worldwide studies of the physical and psychological HARM of abortion on women.

This is NOT a political debate, it is a HUMAN LIFE issue, a broad scope women’s healthcare issue.

The latest and best available science is calling out Planned Parenthood, President Obama – drawing a line in the sand.   Stop the political rhetoric and start speaking the truth!   Stop lying [...]

20 11, 2015

A Time for Resilience….

Are there times when you feel like everything and everyone is against you?

Always remember GOD is for you!  I am for you!

The seasons of life come and go.   There are life lessons to learn.   Surrounding yourself with wise counsel is an important choice you make.   Who are the people you have in your inner circle?   Are they encouraging you or are they trying to keep you down.  Not everyone should be in your inner circle.

Resilience is about having the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties, a toughness to persevere.  To continue on a course of action even in the face of difficulty or with little or no prospect of success.   Success isn’t always about the destination though, there is so much you can gain in the journey.

Hang in there!  Never give up, never give up, NEVER GIVE UP!  Be Resilient! 

If you need help doing this, or even grasping it, you are not alone.   Let’s connect and see just how resilient you are or can be.   You have a cheerleader!

<3

2 03, 2015

Today is Monday, March 2nd 2015 

…you may ask why I am making a point of it at all.  Why is today significant?  Is today just another day to you? Or does today, and every day have mean and purpose for you?  Do you have a clear sense of your identity or do you not have the foggiest notion about your triune identity & purpose on the planet.  The world will try to define and label you and pretty soon you don’t know who in the world you are!Depending on where you are in this life continuum.  No matter what your starting point today…you have the same basic human choice to begin today to think of yourself in the same loving way your Creator God, Papa God, sees you.  Wonderful. Beautiful. Made in His Image. Creative in your own YOUnique way. Intelligent in your own YOUnique way. Designed in your own YOUnique God-inspired triune way. Don’t let the world label you … Let YOUR Creator God! Peace…

13 11, 2014

Mommy Baby Rescue

Getting the text at 8:15 a.m. “I am at the clinic right now” dropped a lead weight in my gut. Everything in me screamed, “No! Ending the life of your 5 1/2 month old baby in your womb will not solve your problems, it creates new ones!”

We had talked the night before and I shared my story of my abortion trauma experience and the things I so wished I had been told by the abortion clinic – the same one she was sitting in, but 34 years prior.

She didn’t want to go through with the abortion but she hadn’t been given other options either. This appointment was her 5th visit – every time she would walk out of the clinic because in her words, “Why should my baby be punished with a death sentence, he’s done nothing wrong. How could I hurt him like that? I just don’t know what else to do!”

I texted her back to see if we could meet, I will come to you. And would it be ok to bring a friend who is a specialist in open adoptions to at least give her more information about her options. All of them. And also, the known risk factors and aftermath of abortion trauma, especially at 5 1/2 months pregnant. Women Deserve Full Disclosure

I could feel the adrenal rushing through my body as the thought came to my mind, “MommyBabyRescue!” In my mind’s eye I saw an enormous guardian angel standing behind and protecting a pregnant mommy with her hands gently and protectively placed over her burgeoning belly. It was a beautiful picture [...]