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23 03, 2024

BE The Change GOD Wants To See In The World

We’ve all heard the phrase, “Be The Change You Want To See In The World” right? But as we look around at the world around us, I would ask, “How’s that working for us?”
With that thought in mind, the former phrase leaves the most important component out of the equation. That component is GOD. God created a beautiful world for us. We have the responsibility to steward what we are given, not just for ourselves, but for future generations.

5 08, 2017

4 Keys to Life

9 07, 2017

Our Interdependence on Independence Day & Everyday

In Celebration of the signing of the Declaration of Independence lets also remember how interdependent we are upon each other.   Our country’s independence from a foreign dictator could have never been accomplished without the unity of those fighting for that independence.    They were interdependent upon each other.

Thomas Paine famously wrote in “The American Crisis” pamphlet during the American Revolutionary War, “These are times that try men’s (and women’s) souls.”

Some say we are in a crucible in our nation.   If so, how will we as individuals, and how as a nation will we respond.

First, what is a crucible?  It’s a container where metals are melted, or subjected to very high temperatures.  In a human sense, some would call it a fiery trial, or the refiner’s fire where metal is tested.  A crucible, or fiery trial can be brief or prolonged.   It can produce something better, or something worse.  The result of the refiner’s fire, often depends on the metal being tested.

Simply put, a crucible is a place or situation that forces people to change or make difficult decisions; a place or situation where different elements interact to produce something new.

Scottish historian and award-winning author makes a very good point to consider, “The point needs to be made that all individuals ground their view of the world within some conception of moral authority.  Not only those who are (religious) in a traditional sense, but also those who claim to have no (religious) faith at all, base their views of the world in unprovable assumptions and ‘being’ and ‘knowledge’.”

Hunter goes on to say, “Within communities that hold orthodox views, moral authority arises from a common commitment to transcendence, by which I mean a dynamic reality that is independent of, prior to, and more powerful than [...]

1 02, 2017

February 1st, 2017…new month, new day in a new year :)

Where did January go?!

February 1st, 2017…new month, new day in a new year.

How did January go for you? Was it everything you hoped it would be? Or did it knock you up side the head or pull the rug out from underneath you? Or somewhere in between? Mine completely knocked me for a loop.  Life can do that!

The morning of January 1st my father and I, and my family, sadly greeted the year with the passing of my dear mother. It’s been a whirlwind of a month, being the oldest daughter in the family and giving caregiving assistance to my father in the care of my mother – everything is different, except for the love and care in our family, it has grown deeper and stronger. Mom would have wanted it that way.

So, we pick up the broken pieces of our hearts – we remember the good times and memories with mom. We keep her love in our hearts. We come alongside my dad as he moves through life without his lifelong partner of 60 years, wow! That’s a long time <3 They stuck together through the good, the bad and the ugly, and believe me their was plenty of ugly.  They persevered, not always sure how they were going to make it through the winters of their relationship, but always remembering that spring and summer were just around the corner.  No matter how dark and bleak it seemed at the time – they hung on. For that I am so grateful!
As their teenage daughter, I was part of creating some of the UGLY they had to deal with in our lives and their marriage. Sorting it all out isn’t easy and [...]

20 01, 2017

L.I.F.E.V.I.C.T.O.R.Y.

I don’t know about you but I love word plays – words matter.

A couple of years ago I created a word finder game to help people have a greater understanding of what LifeVictory Coaching is about.   I’ve attached it here.   Have fun!  Click the link, download and print and play.   LIFEVICTORY WORD POWER SEARCH

I hope and pray that your upcoming 2025 is blessed.   If you feel stuck or without direction or focus, I’d love to help you get unstuck and help you find a sense of purpose in your life.   No matter what your past or current circumstances, you have a bright future.  It’s not a journey you are expected to walk alone.

Blessings,

Deborah

LifeVictory Coaching and Consulting

deborah@lifevictory.com

775-224-0717

21 11, 2016

Resilience Can Be Learned – Emotional Intelligence (EQ) Matters

Resilience – Are we ever in need of a HUGE dose of it about now.   The culture chaos all around us has so much to do with emotional intelligence (EQ), also known as Resilience.   

Researcher Daniel Goleman, in his groundbreaking brain and behavioral research shows a shift in how we see IQ and life success.

What is EQ, Resilience anyway?   Up until 2012, in my studies to become a Certified Life Coach, I had never heard the term before.   Was it ever eye opening and life changing to learn how much of a road block the lack of EQ (Emotional Intelligence), or Resilience can be in one’s life.

Emotional Intelligence includes self-awareness and impulse control, persistence, zeal or enthusiasm and self-motivation, empathy and social deftness or skillfulness, ability without difficulty.   The really good news is these all can be acquired.

In his book, Emotional Intelligence – Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, Dr. Goleman points out that the qualities I just listed above mark people who excel in real life: “whose intimate relationships flourish, who are stars in the workplace.  These are the hallmarks of character and self-displine, of altruism or selflessness and compassion – basic capacities needed if our society is to thrive.”

Why is emotional intelligence, resilience so important for right now as well as success moving forward?   Well, to put it right out there, the personal costs of deficits in emotional intelligence or resilience can range from problems in marriage and parenting to poor physical health.   “New research shows that chronic anger and anxiety create as great a health risk as chain smoking.”  Lack of emotional intelligence, or resilience can sabotage the intellect and ruin careers.  “Perhaps the greatest toll is on children, for whom risks include [...]

19 11, 2016

Reset Button – Words Lift Up & Words Tear Down – Lead in LOVE

Come together, right now….we need to agree to disagree in some cases.  At the end of the day, we need to consider the children of the future.   Protecting them and their innocence.

We must lead in LOVE. 

LifeVictory is thematic – The theme LEADS in LOVE, everything else is elementary and follows.

WORDS fitly spoken can heal…it is time to heal.

Join me in sharing words that heal.  

Peace,

Deborah

 

22 09, 2016

Thankfulness…Truth…Trust – September’s theme

As you’ve likely guess by now if you’ve read many of my blogs….I love words.   Words have the power to lift up and the power to tear down.

The truth matters in building trust.   

Love rejoices when the truth wins out!

“If you abide in My word, you are My disciples. And you shall know the truth and the truth will make you free.”                  – Jesus

Being thankful with a grateful heart.   Having an attitude of gratitude are live changing principles.   Neuroscience of the brain is proving that your brain is healthier in a state of gratitude.  It increases the endorphins in your brain.  And that’s the truth.  

As I mentioned earlier, truth matters in building trust.   If you’ve ever been in a relationship where your trust was violated or betrayed because the other person was not being truthful to you.   That person has to regain your trust by being honest & truthful to you.

Perhaps you are the one who has betrayed someone’s trust because you weren’t telling the truth.   You do not have to stay stuck there.  You can take responsibility for your actions, ask forgiveness and make the commitment to honesty and truth. 

#truthmatters

#trustmatters

#thankfulnessmatters

Speak the truth in love, Be thankful in all things, Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths in good ways.

Peace to You!

Deborah

 

 

 

 

5 08, 2016

Character….Creativity….Courage….Contentment

I’m all about words and the power of words in our lives to bring out the outcomes we desire.

Character….Creativity….Contentment….Courage are some pretty powerful words for our lives today.   We are surrounded by so many messages but staying focused on what we want to see in our lives is a critical step in attaining a higher standard we set for ourselves.   We are only responsible for our response to the world around us.   Each and every one of us has the power to change the course and direction of our lives.   It starts with our thoughts.

Thoughts about ourselves, our Creator and the relationships we have with the people around us, and the world in general.

The content of our character, the good qualities of which are esteemed and respected:  impression: mark of distinction are words we don’t often hear in our culture today.

The creativity of our Creator is infinite!  Just pause for a moment and look at His created universe!   The possibilities are endlessly infinite!  Breath deep……

Contentment, a resting or satisfaction of mind in the present condition; gratification; satisfaction that holds the mind in peace, restraining complaint; degree of happiness.  Hhhhhmmm, I like the sounds of that, don’t you!?

Do you see yourself having Courage?   Bravery is often associated with courage.  It’s the quality of mind that enables one to encounter danger and difficulties with firmness, or without fear or depression of spirits; valor; boldness and resolution.

We live in a day where more and more of these traits are necessary to overcome the hardships, trials and tribulations and teach others to do the same.    The example we set for those around us can go so far in helping them acquire these attributes.

I encourage you to pause and consider these four words [...]

3 07, 2016

Independence Day approaches…..

….as Independence Day approaches I want to encourage you to consider how interdependent you are to the people around you.  Even though we live in a world that prizes and exalts independence, we are so very intertwined and interdependent upon each other!   Even high performance CEOs, professionals or Olympic athletes have coaches and a team around them to journey along with them towards their journey to accomplish their goals.  Their is an innate need for interdependence and community.  

Independence Day in the United States of America is significant in gaining independence from Great Britian, just think if our ancestors, who weren’t perfect and made mistakes along the way, had not fought and joined together interdependently it’s truly a wonder where we would all be today?  On Independence Day we think of our history, we sing the national anthem or hear someone else with goosebumps running down our spine with pride.

With a son currently serving as a Sergeant in the United States Marine Corp I think about how truly interdependent he is with he unit – all for one and one for all.  No man left behind.  They would not be able to protect and rescue the weak if  they were not a strongly intertwined unit looking out for each other and their mission together.

I encourage you to surround yourself with people who encourage your individuality but don’t mistake that with independence.  You are a unique individual but you become even greater based on the people you surround yourself with and are interdependent and intertwined with.  Are they helping you reach your highest and best potential?

The most important intertwined and interdependent relationship you can have in this life is with Papa God, He loves you so much and knows you so well and wants only the [...]